We have all loved and lost. We love our friends, family, boyfriends, girlfriends, and if we're lucky enough, that one special person we can spend the rest of our lives with. We have all lost at least one friend, a family member, or ended a relationship or some sort with someone we loved. If you haven't, then I envy you as well as pity you.
I never though that love was meant to be complex. It was meant to be simple, pure, and special, or so I thought. I've begun to realize more and more recently that love isn't simple. I have always seen myself as a practical person. Casually unique, weird, and crazy, but practical. Love, and other emotions aren't practical, they're primal. They are chemical reactions in our bodies, but they are also so much more. They are one of the driving forces that help us to do what we do in our daily lives.
Love is complex, and yet love is simple. If two people have feelings for each other then they should be together, but it is never quite that simple, is it? There are a thousand factors that are taken into account by both sides of the situation. Sometimes they know it wont work out, and other times one of them is just to practical, or scared, to allow themselves to take the next step if it could mean rejection, or getting hurt. But if you're too afraid to take the next step were you ever truly in love?
There are people who thrive in complexity, and there are people who delve into the world of simplicity. The lines between the two have become incredibly blurred in today's world or technology. We are technology lovers, and with this complex item we have learned that it can be quite simple to manipulate and navigate through. Having said all of this, it goes with the theme that there are people who look for complex relationships, and people how look for simpler ones.
Is it our intentions to risk getting hurt, or the desire to feel alive that drives us towards complex relationships? There is a thrill that we all feel from adrenaline. It's the same high that we get from these complex relationships, and yet it's unlike any drug that we have. The thrill of being with that one person is the best feeling in the world. But it's the worst feeling in the world when they're no where to be found, when they're ignoring you, and when you finally realize that you're being used. The only feeling that could possibly make you feel worse is when you've decided to continue on the same course even though you know you're being taken advantage of. Like I said before though, love isn't practical.
We could all look for the simple relationships. They are by no means safer. You will always face the risk of waking up and finding the person gone. You will always have to face the risk of losing them, or falling out of love as you grow in maturity. But they offer so much more. They allow you to become close to a person, something that you will never be allowed in one that if filled with complexity. Simple relationships allow you to learn more about your partner than anyone else has ever known about them. It allows you to put complete faith in someone, and have them put it in you as well. But does it still hold the same thrill and chance the a complex relationship does?
From an outside point of view it could easily be said which is better. The simple relationship by far, but can it be said for the people who are in love? Each relationship has its own pro's, but they each share the same con. No matter which relationship you choose you will always face the risk of getting hurt. There is a level of love and dependency that is unlike any other relationship. For either relationship to succeed both levels of love and dependency must be equal between both members. Otherwise the relationship would never last, and one would be left with feelings that were unrequited.
Love is an emotion we will never fully understand. It is an emotion that has driven people to do both good and bad, and will continue in this fashion until the end of time. Perhaps all of these are just unfounded opinions that mean little more than nothing to you, but can you tell me if it really is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all?
